Understanding Gradual Change
Pay attention to each step
Long post alert this week
What does this have to do with the week!?
Well, this week, I had a realization that most of the things that I am trying to achieve or I’m happy about this week or this year thus far, at one point, were all unattainable. I may not have reached the level I want to be in each task, but I’ve been hitting some weekly goals. With lots of blood, sweat, and tears, lol.
Don’t think they’re too serious when I say goals and tasks. It ranges from career goals to everyday personal goals. One goal, in particular, made me have a realization this week. This was something I wanted to change about my appearance. No, I didn’t get a BBL or the cheek lift surgery all over Tiktok, “lol.”
Instead, a few years back, I declared that I’d be more intentional about my appearance. You know, have a personal style or look that I want to go for. To do that, I’d have to research because I don’t know anything about that. That research would lead to me finding a style that I’m cool with, then that led to me making an oath to myself that I’d wear the clothes in my closet; and stop the mindless spending on new clothes when i can wear what i have. (Not like i have money to buy clothes anyways, lol ).
So where is the change ?
Well it’s right before our eyes. Gradual steps to accomplish me being intentional with my outfit led to finding a nice outfit in my closet to have brunch this past week. It wasn't as hard as usual, and i had notes to reference. Yes , guys I take notes on the things that I want to be successful at in my personal and professional life.
It took me going through my closet realizing that these close aren’t all ugly i DON’T KNOW HOW TO WEAR THEM. And then you had others that where just not my style and did not flatter my body type or height, so those had to go. From there, we moved on to appreciating what we had. I put an outfit together that I wouldn’t usually put together, but it worked. I liked how i looked, which led to me fulfilling another goal. That is taking intentional photos while out. In other words I felt good , i looked good, so i took pictures that i would be proud of a few years from now. You know, add a lil feminine side to it. Lol Myabe even a lil content creator swag in it as well lol . By doing this, i rediscoverd my love for VANS , I like those simple slip on shoes, you know them and toms. You can never go wrong with the preppy look, lol.
Looking back, those small gradual changes felt like nothing, like they were pointless, but as you put all the pieces together, the results are excellent and greatly appreciated by self then by other. -Ashley Chanel. -Selah
The moment you were waiting for the pic, lol i Hop you weren’t looking for baddie cause this ain’t it. But I look good, lol.
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